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Should it really matter who "wears the pants" in a relationship?
If it's an equal effort, shouldn't both parties be willing to buck up every once in a while?
A follow-up to that, do girls really poop? =P
Here's the thing, girls preach and preach and whine and moan about wanting to be "equals" but when it comes right down to it, all girls want someone to take care of them. IMHO (for the IM illiterate that means in my humble opinion) there should be a level of equality while maintaining the chivalry or whatever, you pickin up what I'm puttin down? Unfortunetly if a dude doesn't pay for the first date, he's cheap. Or broke. And if he's broke, we probably knew this when we accepted the date and if we went anyway, we're prepared to chip in or pay. Later in the relationship, you know once your comfortable, maybe living together, I like to pull my own weight so to speak, pay my share of the bills, take some of that burden off of him. But I still like it when he pays for lunch or groceries, or some random thing like a 62" tv. So, in the end I guess I like to think that trends have gone away from one particular person "wearing the pants" and on to more of a "partnership" view. Girls want to be wined and dined, they don't "truly" want to be equals. Hell, I'd be broke all the time and never get new shoes or clothes if we were truly "equals". This is obviously just me and how I view things, I'm sure there are lots of girls out there say take em, take the pants, just make sure I don't have to work or lift a finger. Know what I mean? I don't like giving up control though and that's how I view the whole "the man wears the pants" outlook.
And yes girls poop. :) But we try very very hard to make you guys think we don't. :)
For more info on pooping check out Oprah's episode "Everybody Poops". :)
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Dear Gomez,
Well in the ideal world, it shouldn't matter. But in the now unfortunately it does. The main situation that will happen if there isn't a leader and follower, you two will butt heads constantly and nothing will ever get done. It would escalate to a horrendous state, and pretty soon there will be control issues you both would need to work out in therapy costing you thousands. If both of you are sitting there waiting for each other to make a decision, than you guys would starve picking a restaurant to eat at! So needless to say, there has to be a dominant force and a passive force. Now on another point of view, chivalry is NOT overrated. In fact it will get you more nookie in the end. The final idea I have for you, is this let her be the vocal and you be the physical. In retrospect, if there is something she can't do, than where would she turn to? The strong wonderful boyfriend she has standing behind her. You know the one that she can count on! Now who’s wearing the daddy pants?
D.
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